I included this quote yesterday, “I’d rather hear about your depression than your suicide.” It is a very important quote, but I cannot take full credit for it. It was shared from the ‘Enlightened Consciousness’ Facebook page. I’ve also seen it on the ‘St. Catherine’s Episcopal Church’s’ Facebook page, and it may very well have originated somewhere else. So to whoever originally said it, thank you.
The original quote as I saw it says “death” at the end instead of suicide, but in the context of mental illness, death by suicide is what we are talking about.
Because suicide is the final, worst symptom of depression. And so often it is a silent killer. But it doesn’t have to be.
Because there are so many people who care about you, some of whom you haven’t even met yet. And it is likely hard for them to hear you suffering, but they won’t turn away. It has been my experience that the members of your tribe will surprise you in your darkest moments if you let them.
So often, when someone dies by suicide, those who are left to pick up the pieces are left in shock. In the aftermath, you will often hear “but he didn’t seem suicidal,” or ”she didn’t seem depressed,” of “why didn’t he say anything?”
It is hard to talk about suicide, but if we are going to end the stigma, we need to talk about it. Because suicide is a symptom caused by a brain that has convinced its owner that things will never get better, and that not existing is the only way to end the suffering. But it isn’t. Opening up opens the door to healing and pushes back against the lies of mental illness. And honestly, there are millions of people who would rather hear more about your depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, PTSD, or whatever other demons you are battling, than your death. I know I would.
And I know another group of amazing people who would rather hear about your demons than your death too. If you are struggling, call 1-800-273-8255. They care, they can help, and they want to hear about your darkness instead of your death.