Family and Mental Health

This past holiday season I had lots of time with family. And while there were times that the noise and festive gatherings were a bit much for my social anxiety, it truly was a blessing. It was a blessing because family are terrific at challenging the lies of mental illness that tell you that you […]

Holiday Recovery

Christmas is now behind us, Hanukkah is moving along, Kwanzaa is just starting, and many of the other year-end traditions are in various stages of completion. Family have come and gone, or maybe the celebrations were a little more low key. Maybe there were friends or feasts, maybe there wasn’t. Maybe you found yourself wishing […]

Giving Thanks, Even In the Darkness

Today is Thanksgiving. The day we give thanks. And I know that at some point today my grandmother will ask what we are thankful for. So, I figured I’d get a head start on the question and put some of my thoughts down here. In past years, years when the darkness was all around me, […]

Give Me Back My Spoons!

Over the next few days, I am doing a bit of traveling. First, I am off to Pennsylvania for Thanksgiving, then I’m doing a quick weekend stop in Austin for a wedding. And while I am excited to see anyone, I really hope my mental illnesses decide to give me back some of my spoons […]

Our Masks and Costumes 

It is Halloween, the day when pumpkins appear in more than just our lattes and when parents try to prevent sugar comas in their children. It is also, of course, a day full of masks and costumes.  For those of us who struggle with mental illness, we seem to wear masks all the time, not […]

A non-love letter to my mental illnesses

Dear Mental Illnesses, I want to say fuck you. I want to say that because of the dark and twisted ways you mess with my life, because of the lies you whisper lovingly in my ear, and because, especially on days like today, you make me feel alone and isolated, unworthy of the good things […]